MOVING FORWARD DESPITE COVID-19 AKA CORONAVIRUS
Sunday April 19 2020
Article 1.When anger gets the best of you.
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As I sit here typing this I can’t help but to think, I should have typed this sooner. Let’s face it, I’m all about helping people discover their true selves. How does that help people deal with what’s happening in current events.
People’s whole lives have been turned upside down. They’re losing their jobs, their business, their homes, their livelihoods and their loved ones. Expressions of anger, fear, concern, hopelessness, uncertainty and grief have been flooding television, Internet, YouTube, phones, in conversations all over the world.
Sadly many have just decided to give up all together taking their own lives, thus adding to the stress and despair of their loved ones.
On the brighter side, I have witness many who have found ways to brighten up the days of so many stuck at home. As they patiently wait for some sign of life returning to normal. Several have found ways to help those in need. They also help those on the front-line of this battle. These people I greatly admire.
I also envy as I have become disappointed in myself and my lack of action to help others. Instead I’m giving into my anger as I express myself on YouTube like a child throwing a temper tantrum. I’m not proud of that behavior. I’m not proud when I write a comment out of anger. I’m not proud when allow myself to become engaged in an on-line argument with someone who criticized my opinion. I feel shame, as my loving nature seems to step aside for the fear based sentiment I’ve been displaying. I’m very well aware it’s not helping the situation. Although I will admit in one case I decided to befriend one who opposes me with a complement and a truce. That conversation then turned from hostile to friendly.
It dawned on me, I’ve done that before with people when the shame of my behavior overpowered the anger that drove it. If I have the ability to do that. This means I have the ability to put aside the differences in our viewpoints. Even to overlook the insults and offensive words thrown at me. It means I have the ability to turn things around in my relationship with others. I have the ability to put fear and anger aside. I have the ability to focus on compassion. It means there is something in me that can help…
This isn’t just in me, it’s in everyone if they so choose.
I have found good news in my childish fear based behavior. It helps me better understand others who feelings match mine. It doesn’t matter if their viewpoints oppose mine. The fear based anger remains the same. Like myself while acting on this fear based anger it can hold them back from progress. While holding onto the fear based anger it can cloud their preceptive on things. Therefore even action taken thats meant to help can end up hindering the situation.
Fortunately you can use your fear and anger as a tool to discover your true self. This helps you move forward. It’s not unusual for us as humans to try to force others to behave in a way that we find acceptable. No matter how right or justified we feel, pushing our beliefs onto others only encourages others to push back. Many including myself have discovered this from personal experience. This has to do with the sympathetic nerves system fight or flight response.
No matter how justified your fear and anger feels, remember those with opposing viewpoints feel theirs is also justified. It doesn’t matter where you think they’re getting their viewpoint or how wrong or stupid you think it is. It’s there for a reason rather or not it makes sense to you.
Believe it or not, I have a hard time with this myself. Their Viewpoint is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Not even if it’s about you. It may feel like it’s your business. You may even think to yourself it’s those with that viewpoint that creating or worsening the problem. Ask yourself, are you helping when you’re arguing with them? More than likely it’s just creating more frustration. I have to continue to remind myself I don’t have to get the approval from others. All of us have our own beliefs, that’s fine.
By letting go of the hold you allow their viewpoint to have on you that puts you in the perfect position to start taking back control of your own life.
That’s when you want to start looking deep within yourself. Ask yourself; What am I really afraid of. What is it about the opposing viewpoint that I believe will harm me? It’s just a viewpoint. Your first internal responses maybe things like. It’s people like them that make things worse. It’s people like them that created this mess. It’s people like them that…… You could probably name a whole list of things that you believe these people do that have created all this mess. I know, I’ve been there, in many ways still there. I also know none of that helps make things better.
Once you stop the blame shifting within, ask yourself again, going deeper this time. What am I really afraid of? What am I really angry about?
As I kept going deeper and deeper with this exercise I discovered some amazing things.
To me those with opposing viewpoints have been brainwashed. Their minds are controlled by those who will harm us. I argue in hopes that I can say something to wake them up to a reality I find true and acceptable. Of course they’re pushing back and accusing me of the very things I feel they’re doing. In both cases fighting a loosing battle. This realization is external. Anytime I have a realization that involves others it’s on the outer side of the layers within.
There maybe several layers I must face and remove first before discovering what’s deep within.
I go back into my life remembering all the brainwashing I’ve endured. I remember the damage it has done to my life and to others. It’s true that I’ve healed many of those areas in my life. It’s true that I have been enlighten in many of those areas. It’s also true that I still find areas that damage hasn’t yet been repaired.
I have good news. I can now see the areas that need healing more clearly. Often at the very moment my actions or thought process reveal it. Yes that includes the moments I respond so bitterly on YouTube or Facebook. As somebody who mostly connects kinetically the information usually comes to me first through a sticky uncomfortable feeling. Although there have been times I would receive it in different ways.
So I fear brainwashing. I fear being wrong, I fear being pushed into a system that goes against who I am. I fear being misinformed, mislead, and deceived. I fear others being deceived because that’s beyond my “control.”
That’s when I remind myself that I control how I act/react. I control how all things affect me. This helps to put the control of my life back into my hands. It give me another perspective.
I also fear more living in deception because I’m afraid of being wrong or don’t want to face it. That’s why rather then to refuse to accept a mistake I will admit it, even if sometimes it’s grudgingly.
I also discovered I get angry when accused of being, thinking or doing something that isn’t true. Being one who endured torment from other peers in school that has happen on more than one occasion. Others have broken rules and convinced authority that I’m the guilty party. In some cases I wasn’t even around or even aware of the offense committed . Yet others had accused me of being apart of it. I can tell you several stories of peers and family members that I’ve had to suffer a consequence for and action I didn’t commit. This created a button easily pushed with false accusation. This added to the many reasons deception remains on my list of hot spots.
Being that I brought up other peoples actions that means we’re still working with external layers. However; we have removed some layers to reach this one.
As you read this you may have picked up a few internal fears.
Control; Fear of being controlled by others and/or not having control of my own life.
Deception; Fear of being mislead by others, deceived into damaging results. Fear of living in deception.
To be honest there are more than two, I’m just giving examples. This gives you an idea of the process I go through to discover what’s really bothering me.
Once I’ve reached the core of my fears I can start to move forward in life. Knowing what I fear also tells me what’s important to me.
It’s important to me to control my own life.
It’s important to me to live in truth.
How do I get back control of my own life?
How do I live in my own truth?
In doing this I must first ask myself this question.
What does that look like?
What does control of my own life look like?
What does living in my own truth look like?
Once I can describe that, I’m ready to put together a plan.
So how can I help others..
I can help others by guiding them to their own truth. From there guiding them to their own plans to move forward during this Coronavirus time. When you feel there is something you can do to move forward it gives you something to work for. For many it gives them something to live for.
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Keep an eye out for the next article coming soon.
I’m currently working on the next COVID-19 Coronavirus article. Moving forward for those who have losses, rather income, loved one, home etc.
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